Tuesday, February 26, 2008

Myth of the Vaginal Orgasm

Did anyone else recall the deli scene from When Harry Met Sally when reading Anne Koedt’s “The Myth of the Vaginal Orgasm?” It’s common knowledge that a lot of women fake orgasms why do men still fall for it? Why bother trying to justify why men aren’t able to sexually satisfy women with their penis? Freud’s emphasis on vaginal orgasms and frigid women is just sad to me because of the negative far-reaching impact. Many women still hold out hope for that elusive vaginal orgasm that so many other women claim they are having. I guess eventually after awhile we all start to believe our own lies otherwise why do women buy into it? They really should make this article required sex ed reading for both sexes.

I had a thought when reading the invisible woman, in particular the quote about “a woman not being seen as an individual wanting to share equally in the sexual act. (230) Perhaps that evolved because women didn’t want to go through the motions and refused to “act out her enjoyment” of something that wasn’t really stimulating her. Though if men are going to obviously be so selfish in their sexual dealings with women why not check their ego at the door and just acknowledge that the act is really about their satisfaction not hers?

1 comment:

Unknown said...

I agree. Even though women fake orgasms it's totally to the satisfaction of the man. If it was for her benefit she wouldn't waste her time faking it. The woman is constantly overlooked when it comes to sexual pleasure. Foreplay works for the female but is cut short when the man is aroused to the point of penetration. Standard sexual penetration only works for male domination. This made me think of how many men don't give oral sex but they expect to receive it along with the sexual action. The woman has to provide satisfaction for the man with oral sex and receive penetration for his pleasure. The woman is overlooked for her personal pleasure.