Tuesday, February 26, 2008

I can get no orgastifactioin..

After reading the article, I think every man needs to read "The Myth of the Vaginal Orgasm."  Sex is literally focused around male pleasure.  Whatever pleases men, which is vaginal penetration, is considered standard or normal.  In this case it leaves the woman's role in sex as the reproductive unit, who simply is satisfied with pleasing the man.  Sex has such a double standard.  Every arousal that the woman receives is for the benefit of the man.  When a woman is aroused it is a tease because she gets excited and the man receives the reward because of the lubrication that is provided for intercourse.  Another role that the woman plays in sex is similar to a garage.  Everything is parked or left inside of her.  She receives penetration from the male dominancy and seamen is left inside of her for reproduction.  In order to sufficiently please a woman in the bedroom the entire construction of sex has to be redesigned.  Living in a hyper-sexualized society, why haven't we looked for equal pleasure with males and females in sex?  Living in a male dominant society, until they consider women's feelings, women will continue to receive the short end of the stick.  

In the article I thought it was very interesting how they compared the male dominancy of sex to racism.  I had never thought sex in comparison to racism.  When blacks feel inferior to white supremacy, it sometimes promotes passiveness for the blacks and dominance from whites.  Making this paralleling connection truly opened my eyes to the construction of sex.  Continually pleasing men deconstructs the role of women expressing their sexuality.  This connects to a question that was brought up in class when we were discussing sexuality.  When women are in same sex relationships they receive mutual satisfaction because of the understanding of what pleases their anatomy.  Looking at homosexuality from this viewpoint is intriguing for the empowerment of women.  Sometimes being selfish in order to express ones sexuality is what it takes.  Until we make visible what is "invisible" to men, women will continue to be controlled.  Men can continue to hold tight to vaginal orgasms as being real in order to continue their power structure.  Until the clitoral orgasm is thrust into the spotlight women will continue to be overlooked for their orgasticfaction.  

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