Sunday, February 3, 2008

I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T Do You Know What That Means?

I N D E P E N D E N T Do You Kno Wat That Mean Mane
She Got Her Own House
She Got Her Own Car
Two Jobs Work Hard U A Bad Broad
If U Aint On Sit Down
If U Aint On Sit Down
If U Aint On Sit Down
If U Aint On Sit Down
This reading, "The woman-Identified Woman" really got me thinking, I mean really thinking about my feeling towards marriange, what it means to be a woman, and my relationships with men. In the first paragraph the term lesbian was defined as the "woman who, often beginning at an extremely early age, acts in accordance with her inner compulsion to be a more complete and freer human being than her society-perhaps then, but certainly later-cares to allow her". I know that I have never been the type to just go with the grain, especially at an early age. I was always the child who had straight A's on my report card, but also had teachers write "Idia asks too many questions." I remember in the third grade my teacher tried to force me to write with my right hand because that was considered the "norm". She actually used to take my pencil out of my left hand and put in in my right. Needless to say I am ambidextrous. I say all this because I don't think a woman has to be a lesbian in order to be different, or to be fed up with society. Another point that RADICALESBIANS touch upon is that the word lesbian was invented by "the Men" (wow) to use against any woman who challenges the authority of men, and in essence wants to independent of men. Am I holding back the woman's liberation movement because I want to get married? According to this group of women, the only way for women to achieve something more then "second class status" is to look to other women for the things that we normally look to men for, including sexual desires. To me, that means to become homosexual. In the words of Flavor Flav, that is a bit "dramatical" ( I know that is not a real word, but I love it anyway). I love my brothers, and I think the only way to help them is to embrace them, not exclude them like they have been for so long. Men won't be extinct anytime soon, so I think instead of trying to live without them, we should just figure out how to live with them. If not, we would be no more right then the men who believe and treat women like we are infereior to them; two wrongs don't make a right.
RADICALESBAINS have made a lot of controversial points in my opininon, but I was able to find one point that I agreed with. The fact that many people, especially heterosexual women, don't consider lesbians real women bothers me because it basically says that out of all the characteristics that make up being a woman, the chocie whether or not you enjoy having sex with men determines whether or not you are a woman. I think it's interesting because whether we want to admit it or not, times are indeed changing. This is evident in the fact that rap music, one of the most controversial forms of music today, is beginning to accept this slowly, but surely. Lil Webbie, a rap artist, has a new song out praising women who are independent. This may be a small step, but it is a step. Young boys idolize rap artists, and maybe this is what it takes in order for young boys to grow up appreciating the idea of strong women, instead of seeing them as a threat. If you ain't on, SIT DOWN!!

3 comments:

tk0821 said...

i really agree wit your comment but when i was thinkin about that song its so funny how they give props to independent women but at the same time we're broads. We can't ever get a break!

sankofa said...

I feel like this song directly relates to men "supporting" lesbians simply because they are benefitted in the long run. The movie "She Hates Me" represents the idea of lesbian/independent women always needing men to attain their full happiness. The male dominance continues to prevail

Feminist Theorist said...

Well put! I guess I question the independence of this woman who is still dependent on the man for "good jug." I think we see this in films like Daddy's Little Girls or Something New. Despite the independence of this woman she still needs a man to fulfill her sexually. There doesn't seem to be room for women to relate to men in a non-sexual way. Feminists are also very critical of this idea of "independence." Many see this as a very masculinist and capitalist ideology that dismisses mutually and collaboration as worthwhile aspects of humanity.