VAGINAL DESTINY??!?!?!

I truly enjoyed The Myth of the Vaginal Orgasm. Much of the information expressed was confirmation of tales and facts I had heard over time. I didn’t know “frigidity” was the term used to describe women when they do not reach vaginal orgasm. It was completely understandable that the lack of vaginal orgasm was due, in part, to male partners not taking time to stimulate the clitoris to the point of orgasm AND the mere fact that sexual interactions were/are used to benefit the man in many cases. In another class, I had recently learned that orgasms were greatly encouraged by psychological influences and stimuli. So that was not surprising. The thoughts that we must “redefine our sexuality” (228) in order to properly repair the lack of vaginal orgasms was empowering to me. The charge to “demand that if certain sexual positions now defined as ‘standard’ are not mutually conducive to orgasm, they [can] no longer be defined as standard” (228) was also empowering. I think it is necessary for women to take charge of our bodies and embrace sexuality as an empowering aspect of life and an opportunity to be expressive not silent.
It was interesting to learn that men have always been aware of the clitoris and managed to figure out how to use it for their benefit. Their ability to arouse and lubricate the woman was merely for their assistance in the act of penetration. They had no desire to allow her to completely enjoy the experience…. “Leaving her both aroused and unsatisfied” (229). So sad. Another interesting, and humorous concept, is that of women faking orgasms. Although it is viewed as a form of comedy in Pop- Culture, it was interesting learning why women have been faking for generations. The attempts to stroke the male ego or lore a man into your possession were amongst the top reasons women have been faking for years.
As in every other reading there are areas of concern and confusion for me as the reader. I was appalled when I read the Freudian concepts of vaginal orgasms. His initial thought that “clitoral orgasm was adolescent, and that upon puberty, when women began having intercourse with men, women should transfer the center of orgasm to the vagina” (228)… What on earth?! Transfer?! I was even more appalled with the fact that women were being advised to seek psychological help in order to overcome their “frigidity” (which was a man-made LIE designed to degrade women and weaken their sexuality). And this psychological assistance was meant to help her achieve “natural role as a woman” (228). So now my orgasms somehow determine my womanhood? It further states that this damage to women’s mental health kept them from achieving their “VAGINAL DESTINY”!!!! What on earth!?