The Myth

This article is quite interesting as it emphasizes the "serviceable" woman. It highlights the institutionalized sexism that our society has come to accept. The lack of evidence in the anatomical study of women and regard for their pleasure baffles me as we approach this century of enlightenment, accessibility to facts and evidence, developed technology, etc. I have had this conversation with many of my friends and they too "suffer" from this notion of "frigidity." Many of them told me that they feel like they are less than or somehow undergoing internal turmoil because of their inability to respond to the sex dominated by their mates. I think that they have grown too comfortable with blaming themselves if they do not have an orgasm and leave it at that without really dissecting the "issue." Maintaining this myth is quite convenient for the man's ego. The categories that supplement this notion prove the tone, Sexual penetration is preferred, the invisible woman, the penis as epitome of masculinity, etc. Aside from the male-dominated aspect of the women's orgasm, heteronormativity is also prioritized. Research for women's orgasm "problems" have only been measured when engaged with men as if that is the sole expression of their sexuality. This indeed shows the true intention of this research as it only serves the man's pleasure. If this research were truly intended to better sexual encounters for all and to analyze the psychosis of women for women, the factors would be expanded beyond the framework of heterosexuality. Confusion bombard our mentalities and has systematically inclined us to deceive men to not only boost their confidence out obligation but it also dismisses our need for pleasure and visibility as well (much like the tradition practiced since the biblical era). The silence must be broken (or noticed when having sex) to enable communication between partners and deconstruct the idea that women are merely appendages to their male counterparts. The confusion stimulated from this issue proves that we must define our own issues for ourselves in an attempt to get in touch with and celebrate our own sexuality so that we may be sexually liberated prioritizing us.